On my socials last week, I asked some questions regarding the aftermath of a breakup and what we do and how it can affect not only our self-worth but also our mental well-being.
And sadly, I wasn’t at all surprised by the results. 90% of those asked said they had changed their appearance after a break down of a relationship in the hope that this would make them feel better… and did it? No. Everyone handles a breakup differently, and I don’t believe there is one right way. It all depends on you as a person.
Some of us wallow in listening to sad songs, some of us eat our feelings, whilst others put on their best outfits and go out every weekend to forget. But when does that change to looking in the mirror and deciding you need to change who is looking back and how much are you wanting to change in the hope it will bring that person back into your life? And is it really the right time to make such decisions?
Nowadays girls (and I guess some boys too) don’t just change the colour or the length of their hair, I’m talking surgery. A girl I know broke up with her boyfriend because he said she had gained too much weight, so she went and got a gastric band. Another thought adding filler to her lips would make her more desirable to the next man.
I’m not saying I don’t agree with people doing these things, I totally believe it is up to the individual. But what I am saying is immediately post breakup may not be the best time. Your emotions will be everywhere, they can a lot of the time get the best of us and cloud our judgement.
So, whilst a haircut or a colour isn’t too dramatic and can be fixed, changing your face or body more dramatically are things that cannot be taken back in a couple of weeks when you’re feeling more yourself. So, if like me you’re sat googling what to change when you look in the mirror, do me a favour, just wait a few weeks, give yourself some time to heal, and whatever you decide make sure you do it for you, no one else. Because ultimately, nothing you add or take away to your face or body will heal your heart, only time will do that.