One thing I have realised since becoming single is how important it is to be able to spend time by yourself, and not just at home in your own bubble but actually take yourself out, eat alone, go to the cinema alone all the things we do when we’re in a relationship or with our friends.
Nothing really phases me anymore; I genuinely enjoy my own company and last summer I went on a week’s holiday by myself. I ate out every night, I went for drinks, sunbathed by myself all alone in a foreign country and it did me wonders. It made me realise how much I had been dependant on other people for so long, and what happens when those people leave? Am I supposed to stay in for the rest of my life? No, of course not. Over the last 12 months I have learnt exactly what makes me happy, done things that I enjoy, pushed myself out of my comfort zone and I have loved every minute. Of course, there have been times I have wanted to share experiences with a significant other, however right now isn’t that time and I know eventually a time will arrive when I will be able to do just that.
But right now, it’s just me.
I truly believe when you take the time to date yourself, you start to find your own identity.
As a result, you become more comfortable in your own skin, you develop a healthy relationship not only with yourself but with others too.
Going against society’s norm and dating yourself is one of the healthiest things you will ever do.
I know the concept may seem daunting for some, it did for me at first, but taking the steps to loving yourself, embracing every quality you have will only help towards the art of self-love.
The more we learn to love ourselves, the happier we are spending time alone can only mean we are relying on others a lot less. For me this means when I do get into my next relationship, I know I will be comfortable spending time alone just as much as I will with my partner.
I truly believe if you want to have a happy long-lasting relationship you need to start with how you feel within yourself. And entering a relationship as a happy person will only make things a lot more fulfilling.
So, this weekend I had some me time.
I dated myself, all weekend.
And I survived.