What have I learnt since being in and out of love?
Honestly?
Don’t make one person your whole world, because ultimately if you break up (and chances are you probably will – how depressing) then you’re going to feel like your world has ended and you have nothing to live for.
And I for one drowned in the idea that my life was now meaningless, and I struggled daily with the idea of moving on without them.
Break ups are not easy, but relationships should not consume your entire being. There should always be other things in your life, other people to rely on and hobbies to keep you motivated and busy.
Your whole world should not keep turning because of one person.
And even if you do make it, even if you live everyday with your soul mate by your side, they still shouldn’t be your sole reason for living.
You should be your own person for you.
You should be living your life for you and only you.
Does that sound selfish? Maybe it is. But ultimately, we come into this life and go out of this life alone.
Being in love is amazing.
Loving someone and having them love you back is one of the best things you can experience in your lifetime, but it is not everything.
Being in love doesn’t mean you have to be in each other’s pockets or agree with everything they say and do. You’re supposed to be two separate people brought together through love.
Your friendships, your career, your family they should all be a part of your life and make you happy and if your partner is your only source of happiness that is concerning and something that needs addressing.
If your putting pressure on your partner to be responsible for your happiness it will never work and it’s not healthy for you or for them.
I know for sure, the next person I fall in love with I will not make them my one and only source of happiness, because life can change in an instant.
I have felt that feeling of numbness when a relationship ends, that feeling of what now? The feeling of nothing else making you feel complete and feeling you will never be happy again. Feeling like you have no reason to get out of bed in the morning.
And I don’t want that again.
I want my life to be full of happiness and fulfillment whether I am single or with someone.
And you should too.
Create a life that makes you happy and not just your love life.